How to Enhance Your Personality




Have you been struggling with any or some of these terrible habits: Heavy Drinking, Smoking, Lying, stealing, watching unwholesome sites, womanizing, prostitution, backbiting, quarreling  borrowing, laziness, etc, and as much as you try to drop it, the more you find yourself getting deeper into it.  Some habits are so strong that certain measures must be taken before they can go away.  Below are some of the measures you can take to enable you drop a bad habit as quickly as possible:

You Have To Make Up Your Mind To Stop – Let us use smoking as a case study.  The day you started smoking, you decided on your own without anyone putting a gun to your neck.  It will also be ethical you and you alone make the decision to stop.   The truth remains that you are the only one that knows yourself very well, and who can tell yourself the truth and have the sole power to make things work in your life and there is nothing permanent in this life except change.  People may counsel you as much as they could; it is only when you agree with them that the counseling will work.  So you have the key to take control of your life than anyone else.

Marten, a University undergraduate who was 19 when he took to smoking as a result of peer pressure, narrated how he was able to drop this bad habit.  At first he hid it away from his parents but later they were able to find out through Marten’s friend.  All efforts made by his parents to make him stop were fruitless until one New Year eve.  Every member of his family went for a vigil service but he lied of having a stomach ache and was left alone in the house.  He locked himself in his room smoking.  Suddenly according to him, realized that he was the only one in the house and at the same time doing what everyone was against - smoking.  He became sober and made that great decision to stop smoking.   

Avoid Every Avenue of Temptation – It is difficult to make a decision but it is more difficult to keep such decision especially when it has to do with habits that have already been formed.  In order to carry out your decision, you need to break every link to that bad habit.   Everything that will make you go back to that bad habit must be avoided.
Marten said, he immediately ran out of the house, threw away the remaining packets of cigarette in his room, the ash tray and the lighters.  He even broke up with his friends who smoke.


Move Ahead – Now that you have dropped that bad habit, make yourself free and keep you mind busy by engaging yourself with meaningful activities.  Loosen yourself, make new friends and mix up with people who can make you overcome your weaknesses and move to the next level.   Don’t allow your past to weigh you down or be hunted by what you have left behind, live in the future.  Marten said he used to be a loner, avoiding even the members of his family because he would not want anyone to know or understand what he was doing.  As soon as he stopped smoking, he reunited with his family and began to take part in house chores, teaching his younger siblings their school work and never wanted to stay alone again.

Most importantly be prayerful.  It takes a committed and prayerful life to get away from a bad habit.  Whenever your mind strays pray, there is no particular position or place a person must be to pray.  Always give yourself to prayer and you will overcome.