Is your marriage broken or about to collapse? Are you ready to save it? Is that really possible? The owners acknowledge that their house is in a bad condition, but they have decided to restore it. Would you like to do the same with your marriage? If so, where will you begin? Try the following suggestions.
· Identify the problem. What is it that has interfered with your marriage? Is the problem from you or your spouse? In one sentence, write out what you think is lacking or what you want changed. Understandably, the problem you identify may be different from that noted by your spouse.
· Make a resolve. Work it out and agree with your mate that you will work together to restore peace to your marriage. Make the sacrifice of playing the fool to lead in the restoration mission. Try writing your decisions on paper. When both you and your spouse are committed, saving your marriage becomes a team project.
· Set a goal. Where would you like your marriage to be six months from now? What specific improvements would you like to see? It requires working hard to avoid any conflict within this restoration period. Write your goal on paper. When you have a clear vision as to what you need in your marriage, your goal will be easier to attain.
· Apply Bible Counsel. Once you have identified your problem and discovered the improvements you would like to make, look to the Bible for advice. Its principles are timeless, and they really work. Isaiah 48:17; 2 Timothy 3:17) for example, the Bible encourages you and your spouse to be forgiving. Indeed the Bible says that “It is beauty…to pass over transgression”. Proverb 19:11.
Even if at first your efforts seem futile, do not give up. The book – The Case for Marriage reports the encouraging results of one study, stating: “The truth is shocking: 86% of unhappy married people who stick it out find that, five years later, their marriages are happier”. Even couples who described themselves as very unhappy experienced a turnaround.
Perhaps the same can be true for you. It has been found that the Bible provides practical principles for married couples. For instance, many marriages improve when spouses are kind and tenderly, compassionate and freely forgive each other. Wives should learn the value of displaying a “quiet and mild spirit, and husbands should experienced the benefits of not being bitterly angry with their wives – 1 Peter 3:4; Colossians 3:19.
The Scriptural principles are effective because the Bible’s Author Jehovah God created the marriage arrangement. Why not find out more on how the Bible can help your marriage.