Stillbirths do occur at different stages of
pregnancy, some babies die in the stomach after about 28 weeks, while others
may occur during labor and child birth. When it occurs earlier it will be
regarded as a miscarriage.
Losing your baby no matter how old can be very overwhelming,
mothers who have had miscarriages or lose their pregnancies can tell you
better.
A good friend of mine has just lost her baby
immediately after birth. When I visited her
home, she did not come out to see me, she was so devastated that she has
refused to see anyone or hear any word of advice.
Most of us have had this type of experience in the
past and to tell you the fact, it is definitely not a good experience,
especially if you are a first timer. I
lost my first baby boy immediately after birth and it was like the end of the
world then. I remembered how I will cry
for a whole day without eating until I was able to put myself together.
You will agree with me that carrying a pregnancy for
nine months is not an easy task and then the labor pain, only to give birth to
a dead child. Hmm! May God never allow you go through this experience.
Anyways Stillbirth does happen. It is one of those occurrences that we cannot
change but what we have the power to do is to deal with the situation in the
best way we can to help ourselves.
The following tips will help you recover fast after
a stillbirth:
Make
Room for Consolation
The first healing comes from seeing family, friends
and loved ones around you. Hearing those comforting words and prayers and
learning from others who have had similar problems and how they were able to
come out of it will help you recover fast. You may not value what those words
mean to you but it definitely works.
Denying yourself food and even visitors, locking
yourself indoors and crying all days, will only make your condition worst and
this might also result to more damage to your health and overall well-being.
Stand
Up To the Challenge
Even though the comfort you get from family and
friends will help you recover fast, it is only you who can actually comfort
yourself. This is not the time to
apportion blames on who caused the damage; it is time to move ahead, give
yourself to prayer.
Even if you are on a maternity leave, call your
office to resume back to work or go back to your business. Engage yourself actively to avoid loneliness.
Trying and failing for the first time is not too bad
and it cannot determine what the future holds for you. Because you are still alive, you will have as
many children as you like.
Resume
Sexual Relationship Immediately
As soon as you are strong enough, resume your normal
sexual relationship with your husband.
Some cultures may see this as a taboo as they have to observe some
certain cleansing and rituals. I am
saying that if you are medically fit, resume your relationship. The sooner you start the faster you will get
pregnant and when you are pregnant again, you will forget that you lost a baby
ok!
Do not kill yourself for what you cannot change. You
should also inquire from your doctor if there is anything you have done wrong;
either taking a wrong medicine that has caused the stillbirth so that you can learn
from your experience avoid doing them in the future.
Wishing you safe delivery at all times.